Wednesday, July 29, 2009

sedikit perkongsian


During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said,"How do I know if I married the right person?" I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "Itdepends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse.

You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was acompletely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything.

That's why it's called "falling" in love...

Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about theimagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standingthere; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades.

It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?"

And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown.

People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious.

But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.

You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):


SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery.

There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), thereare also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exerciseprogram makes you physically stronger, certain habits in yourrelationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause andeffect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling.

Remember this always:

"God determines who walks into your life.

It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay,

and who you refuse to let go."

Wednesday, July 22, 2009


hari ni tanggal 22.07.2009 for the very first time aku terlibat dgn accident.. on the way gi bank lak tue dgn bos.. huhu.. aku yg duduk di seat belakang mak aih... nak tercampak... nasib baik dada terhentak sikit kat seat depan..

alhamdulillah syukur aku panjatkan pd Allah kerana mengizinkan aku bernafas di bumi ini... aku punyerlah excited nak tgk gerhana.. rupa2nya aku yg gerhana.. accident dgn wira.. huhu nasib baik keta bos aku triton tu 4wd.. kalau x mau remuk...

aku bergegas call my hubby.. then sepantas kilat dia dtg.. i really love him so much... sanggup dia dlm kebun sawit terus dtg melihat keadaan aku.. takdelah teruk sgt pun... tp aku mcm terkejut.. dada sakit.. my hubby risau yg tahap cipan terus mendptkan aku... then terus ke klinik takut2 ada mslh dalaman..

then check, x-ray.. alhamdulillah semuanya ok.. takde kecederaan serius.. terharu dan rasa lega bila my hubby dtg... aku dpt nampak kerisauan yg terpancar dari wajahnyer.. dia berkata " sape tak sayang bini oiiii!!" dlm keta aku menangis di sisinya.. aku takut tak dpt jumpa dia lagi... ternyata Allah Maha Kaya... dia masih memberi kekuatan padaku utk menghadapi hidup ini bersama suamiku...

apepun syukur sekali lagi... tiada apa yg lebih berharga di dunia ini daripada anugerah dari Allah yg tidak ternilai untukku.. i love you so much abang!

Monday, July 20, 2009


Early in the morning I put breakfast at your table

and make sure that your coffee has its sugar and cream

your eggs are over easy

your toast done lightly

all that's missing is your morning kiss that used to greet me

now you say the juice is sour

it used to be so sweet

and i can't help but to wonder

if you're talking about me

we dont talk the way we used to talk

its hurting me so deep

i got my pride

i will not cry

but it's making me weak..

i'm not your superwoman

i'm not the kind of girl that you can let down

and think that everything's ok

boy i'm only human

this girl needs more than occasional

hugs as a token of love from you to me..

i fought my way through the rush hour

trying to make it home just for you

i want to make sure that your dinner will be waiting for you

but when you get there you just tell me

you're not hungry at all

you said you'd rather read the paper

and you dont want to talk

you like to think that i'm just crazy

when i say that you've changed

i'm convinced i know the problem

you dont love me the same

you're just going through the emotion

and you're not being fair

i got my pride

i will not cry

still i can't help but care..

ooohh.. baby

look into the corner of your mind

i'll always be there for you

through good and bad times

but i can't be that superwoman

that you want me to be

i give my everlasting love

if you return love to me

if you feel it in your heart and you understand me

stop right where you are

everybody sing along with me

i'm the kind of girl that can treat you so sweet

but you got to realize that

you've got to be sweeter to me

i need love...

i need trust...

your love..

*this song is so meaningful.. all that i can say that i'm not a superwoman.. i have pride, i'm a normal humanbeing.. fo my hubby.. i know that i'm not a perfect person but i'll always love you more than forever... hope that our love will be everlasting forever until we meet again in the heaven... insyaAllah...

Thursday, July 16, 2009


Assalamualaikum... salam sejahtera kepada sahabat-sahabat.. semoga sentiasa berada dlm perlindungan dan kasih sayang Allah jua...

First of all.. syukur pd Illahi atas nikmat yg dikurniakan pada hamba-hambaNya yg sentiasa bernaung di bawah langit dan di atas bumi ciptaan yang terindah tiada tolok bandingnya... Syukur atas nikmat udara yg disedut dan dihembus membolehkan insan bernama manusia bernafas di bumiMu yang permai ini...

apepun.. Bismillahirrahmanirrahim aku mulakan dlm menari2kan jejari tanganku menekan keyboard laptop ofis nie.. bukan membazir masa malah mengisi masa yg terluang dgn sesuatu yg insyaAllah bermanfaat kepada semua terutama diriku sendiri.. semoga Allah sentiasa memberi kekuatan, kesihatan dan keizinan utk aku meneruskan jari jemariku dan fikiranku untuk "MENELITI KEHIDUPAN MENUJU KEREDHAAN"...

sekian untuk mukaddimahnyer..